I was asked recently what advice I would give to Prince William about overcoming wedding night jitters. Initially, the notion of wedding night jitters struck me as outdated. Do people have them any more?
But it got me thinking. Weddings remain a powerful threshold, a rite of passage that hold potent social and emotional significance. However familiar a couple have become beforehand, their wedding is a momentous event.
My suggestion with regards to wedding night jitters is is simple. Don’t bother with sex on your wedding night. Yes, you read that correctly. Don’t bother with sex on your wedding night. Its too much pressure.
And that pressure is multiplied exponentially if you are a prince, and your wedding day is such a public event. Its demanding and exhausting.
Even if you don’t have the glare of the media with which to contend, a large part of wedding days are about the family and friends of the couple. Its a public event, with the bride and groom performing their part for others.
At the end of such a day, its hardly fair for a couple to expect themselves to perform for each other. So don’t. Be easy about it, and be easy on yourselves. If you tumble into intimacy, then let it be that – a tumble into private togetherness at the end of a long and public day. But don’t expect yourself to perform the kama sutra. After all, you’ve got all the time in the world for that from the next day onwards.