Prince William’s Wedding Night

25 Apr

I was asked recently what advice I would give to Prince William about overcoming wedding night jitters. Initially, the notion of wedding night jitters struck me as outdated. Do people have them any more?

But it got me thinking. Weddings remain a powerful threshold, a rite of passage that hold potent social and emotional significance. However familiar a couple have become beforehand, their wedding is a momentous event.

My suggestion with regards to wedding night jitters is is simple. Don’t bother with sex on your wedding night. Yes, you read that correctly. Don’t bother with sex on your wedding night. Its too much pressure.

And that pressure is multiplied exponentially if you are a prince, and your wedding day is such a public event. Its demanding and exhausting.

Even if you don’t have the glare of the media with which to contend, a large part of wedding days are about the family and friends of the couple. Its a public event, with the bride and groom performing their part for others.

At the end of such a day, its hardly fair for a couple to expect themselves to perform for each other. So don’t.  Be easy about it, and be easy on yourselves. If you tumble into intimacy, then let it be that – a tumble into private togetherness at the end of a long and public day. But don’t expect yourself to perform the kama sutra. After all, you’ve got all the time in the world for that from the next day onwards.


Posted by on 25/04/2011 in Romance, Sex


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4 responses to “Prince William’s Wedding Night

  1. Jackie Walker

    25/04/2011 at 5:59 pm

    Fabulous advice as ever Vena – expectations can be so invasive can’t they!

  2. Alex Burgueno

    25/05/2011 at 7:36 pm

    That’s good advice Vena. But what to do when one of the new spouses wants to make love?… it could be disappointing for one of them…

    • Vena Ramphal

      31/05/2011 at 8:36 pm

      Ah yes, thats a dilemma that couples will inevitably face during a long term relationship. While it might seem better to oblige your partner and have sex if they want it, I’d recommend waiting till you are both in the mood. Its not a good idea to engage in intimacy if you don’t want to. If you do, it sends a mixed message to your body – that sex is both pleasurable and an obligation. Its much better to disappoint your partner temporarily, and enjoy fully pleasurable sex long term.

  3. pascalescheurer

    06/07/2011 at 2:15 pm

    So true. We got the same advice from several people before our wedding. We’d agreed it beforehand so it was fine, we just fell into bed totally hammered anyway. Got up for a very late breakfast still in my wedding dress the next day.

    So, if you want to give your friends a great wedding gift, tell them beforehand they’ll be too tired to have sex on their wedding night!


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