I believe that in order to be a skillful lover you need to have your own repertoire of moves. Positions, rhythms and patterns that suit your body. This requires practice.
But what if you find that your favourite position or stroke just doesn’t do it for your lover? It can be quite a thing to give up parts of love making that you hold dear or of which you are proud. The invitation is not simply to find something new, but to be led by the workings of your lover’s body. This kind of change in your repertoire is a physical practice of surrender, non-ego and fleshy newness.
Its important to practise a repertoire of moves, but the deeper skill of lovemaking is in being prepared to be undone, flummoxed and made a beginner when you least expect it.