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Let your body help you with heartbreak

You can’t make your heart heal straight after a break up. That happens at its own pace. But I’ve noticed that pampering your body helps to get you through that initial pain.

Eat comfortingly and sleep cosily.

Get massages. Hug your friends. Have sex. Touch is good. Good touch heals.

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Posted by on 11/11/2012 in Breakups and Divorce, Love

 

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The Heart in Transition

Recently, I’ve been discussing transition with a number of clients – the space between one relationship and another, when feelings for your previous partner haven’t completely gone, but feelings for someone else have started.

A number of people feel uncomfortable about this, even guilty. The thing is that the heart doesn’t work in a linear way. Its more than capable of holding feelings for more than one person. I think that people can struggle to accept their heart’s capacity for non-monogamous, non-linear emotion because our culture values the tidiness of commitment-to-one over the fluidity of more-than-one.

But the heart doesn’t understand tidiness. Emotions are mucky – that’s their glory.

The key to this transition space is to be easy about the messiness. Don’t overthink it, and don’t impose a timeline on your heart. Let it have its own timeline. And one day, of its own accord, the transition will be complete.

 
 

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