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Incidental Sex

There’s a contented sort of lovemaking that is less an expression of desire and more an expression of….something else. Its hard to find the word. Its a sort of bodily plenitude. As if your body is so replete with ease in the nakedness of your partner’s body. And that plenitude spills out as lovemaking. Almost incidentally.

Incidental sex. Sounds discourteous, no?

But its not. Bodies that are so at ease with each other open themselves to an unusual tranquility in lovemaking. Their leisureliness brings the rim of the soul into view.

Words are unnecessary. No “I want” or “Harder” or “Turn around”.

Breathing is smoother and movements are more measured than normal, choreographing the body into cellular peace.

Arousal shrugs its way into orgasm, reluctant to disrupt its own placated rhythm.

I slid peacefully from arched spine to slumped-on-his-chest, to heavy eyelids, to sated sleep.

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Posted by on 04/04/2013 in Erotic Pleasure, Sex


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The Orgasmic Self

Its an interesting thing about orgasm – the word is synonymous with ultimate pleasure. Often, if people want to describe something as really pleasurable they say ‘Its orgasmic.’

But recently I’ve been asking people to describe the feeling of orgasm. When they really start to think about it, its not so easy to put the feeling into words. Its not just pleasurable in the way that other things are. Have you noticed how people hardly smile when they orgasm? If it was simple, happy-making pleasure, the facial muscles would respond accordingly.

Orgasm is more than just pleasurable. I’d say it takes us beyond the duality of pleasure/pain into a deeper, more complex experience of Being. Physiologically, the whole of the central nervous system is engaged during orgasm. This means that the nerves along the whole spine are tingling away. Thats why the sensation affects the whole body, or most of the body, even if briefly.

The body shakes involuntarily – it is beyond your control. Physical and emotional sensations sweep over you. They twitch through you of their own accord. Its an experience of self that is beyond the mundane.

From a yogic-tantric point of view, orgasm takes us into an altered, more expanded and unified state of consciousness. Yoga-tantra practices can be described as a series of technologies for experiencing the self. Many of these practices centre on manipulating the central nervous system by opening the chakras (a series of psycho-physical centres located along the spine and brain.) Orgasm achieves this opening – whether in part or in full. For the moment of orgasm, everyone becomes a yogi – effecting or at least simulating the unified opening of the chakras. This opening is accompanied by an alteration in the person’s consciousness, from one of separate individuality to one that touches unity consciousness. Orgasm in and of itself does not necessarily achieve unity consciousness, but it brings one a glimpse of it.

The orgasmic self leans towards being a universal self. Enjoy.


Posted by on 22/04/2012 in Sex


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