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Smooch Before You Commute

I woke up smiling at the previous night’s kisses. They were still impressing themselves on my mind and mouth.

I felt open, probed, tickled. The act of kissing had changed my sense of self.

I stepped out of bed and my skin goosbumped into the air. I realised that today I would meet the world with a softened body and a gentle mind.

I wondered, ‘What would work be like if everyone spent an hour making out before they went in to the office?’

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Posted by on 12/06/2013 in Erotic Pleasure


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The Orgasmic Self

Its an interesting thing about orgasm – the word is synonymous with ultimate pleasure. Often, if people want to describe something as really pleasurable they say ‘Its orgasmic.’

But recently I’ve been asking people to describe the feeling of orgasm. When they really start to think about it, its not so easy to put the feeling into words. Its not just pleasurable in the way that other things are. Have you noticed how people hardly smile when they orgasm? If it was simple, happy-making pleasure, the facial muscles would respond accordingly.

Orgasm is more than just pleasurable. I’d say it takes us beyond the duality of pleasure/pain into a deeper, more complex experience of Being. Physiologically, the whole of the central nervous system is engaged during orgasm. This means that the nerves along the whole spine are tingling away. Thats why the sensation affects the whole body, or most of the body, even if briefly.

The body shakes involuntarily – it is beyond your control. Physical and emotional sensations sweep over you. They twitch through you of their own accord. Its an experience of self that is beyond the mundane.

From a yogic-tantric point of view, orgasm takes us into an altered, more expanded and unified state of consciousness. Yoga-tantra practices can be described as a series of technologies for experiencing the self. Many of these practices centre on manipulating the central nervous system by opening the chakras (a series of psycho-physical centres located along the spine and brain.) Orgasm achieves this opening – whether in part or in full. For the moment of orgasm, everyone becomes a yogi – effecting or at least simulating the unified opening of the chakras. This opening is accompanied by an alteration in the person’s consciousness, from one of separate individuality to one that touches unity consciousness. Orgasm in and of itself does not necessarily achieve unity consciousness, but it brings one a glimpse of it.

The orgasmic self leans towards being a universal self. Enjoy.


Posted by on 22/04/2012 in Sex


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Unlocking Your Body’s Sexual Power. A salon for women

I’m delighted to be teaching this salon, hosted by the exclusive erotic boutique – coco de mer.

Date: Wednesday 16 March, 6.45pm

Place: coco de mer, 108 Draycott Ave, South Kensington, London, UK

Ladies, to find out more and to book, click here

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Posted by on 07/03/2011 in Events, Gender


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